Testimonials

From Other Authors, Therapists, Community Leaders & Professionals

"This book is a must-read for everyone who is married, divorced, or contemplating marriage, as well as for professional marriage counselors who want to greatly improve their skills." —Nicholas A. Cummings, Ph.D., Sc.D., Distinguished Professor, University of Nevada, Reno; President Cummings Foundation for Behavioral Health; & former President, American Psychological Association

"An insightful perspective on human relationships that goes far beyond today’s chaotic television ‘free-for-alls.’ One CAN have a more satisfying and rewarding life…—" Pat De Leon, Ph.D., former APA President

"Settle for More is an inspired book, and I cannot overstate the value of it for anyone who wants to be in a successful relationship. It is a must read for all who seek to achieve this goal." —Dr. Robert Schuler, Crystal Cathedral Ministries "Hour of Power"

"Your book has helped our already strong relationship go even higher. Honoring rocks!" —Sue Patton Thoele, MA, Mother, Stepmother, Grandmother and Bestselling author, The Courage to Be Yourself, Growing Hope and The Woman’s Book of Spirit

"NOT for the faint-hearted or relationship lazy, this is a book about engaging 100% in the love of life by living a life of love, and Oh! the rewards to those who decide to engage!"— Elisabet Sahtouris, Ph.D., Future Biologist and International Speaker

"It’s time marriage has a new belief system…here it is. It is dedicated to making love work." —Mark Victor Hansen, Co-Creator, #1 New York Times best-selling series "Chicken Soup for the Soul." Co-author, The One-Minute Millionaire

"I have been using Settle for More by Tom and Bobbie Merrill as a therapeutic tool for couples experiencing relationship discord. The authors write in a simple flowing style that helps couples grasp the concepts of a positive relationship and then teaches them how to use them. My patients are loving the book and are improving their relationships."—Gail Chase-Pion, LCSW, Los Angeles, CA

"I have had the opportunity to discuss the core ideas and methods of improving relationships with the authors during their writing of this book, and reading the finished product has indeed been a delight. The Merrrills’ ideas on relationship enhancement take concepts that are familiar to most all of us, but arrange them in a manner that few of us would have considered. Yet it is the new arrangement that allows the method in the book to be so powerful in transforming relationships, whether the relationship is with a spouse, a friend, or a co-worker. I highly recommend the book to anyone who wants to improve a relationship they are in." —Dr. Richard Kappenberg, Psychologist and Faculty at American School of Professional Psychology at Argosy University, Honolulu, Hawaii

"This book takes us through the practical steps of raising the bar on relationships. It challenges us to not throw "sticks" at one another and to avoid getting stuck in the rut of unhealthy patterns of relationships that we may have settled for in our families of origin. Instead, we are to envision the "apples" we want in our love relationships, the values which are essential to us. Especially helpful is that the Merrills show us how they went through these steps in their own relationship with some cute memories of their lives together. The book is practical and upbeat, a handy resource." —Reverend Jim Miller, D.D, author of God Scent

"By actually teaching people how they can be loving in the living rooms of their lives, you are doing a ‘back door ministry.’"—Rev. Sim Fulcher, D.D.

"The love between you is palpable. I can see that your model works!"—Dr. Bob Spicer, Honolulu, HI

"As an educator, I can really see how much people will profoundly benefit from this material."—Vicki Wiley, MDV, Teacher/Director of Educational Programs, Honolulu, HI

"Finally, a book that helps you with a model of how to make relationships more healthy and communicative." —Daniel Chun, Ph.D., Head Pastor, First Presbyterian Church of Hawaii, Honolulu, HI

"The vibrations from your Sunday at Windward continue to touch the lives of our people. Someone told me this Sunday how much they are enjoying your book and that they were so inspired by what you two had to say when you were guest speakers. Thank you both for letting your light shine so brightly."—Rev. David McClure

From Their Clients

"Anyone trying to have a successful relationship without this model is at a disadvantage." Anonymous Client, Phoenix, AZ

"It’s so easy to learn, we were able to "get" it in a few hours over the phone with the Merrills. Initially, I thought the phone would be a barrier to our having a good session, but it wasn’t’!" —Anonymous Client, Seattle, WA

"I wasted years and a good deal of money going down several wrong roads with a collection of therapists. It wasn’t until my husband and I met with the Merrills that we were able to rather quickly heal our relationship and feel close again."­—Anonymous Client, Honolulu, HI

From Their Readers

"On a scale of 1-10, Settle for More is a 20!" —Patricia Campbell, Court Reporter, Honolulu, Hawaii

"I don’t often use the term "ground-breaking" but that is the word that best describes Settle for More."—Tom Stirling, Attorney, Honolulu, HI

"I loved this book. The Merrills remind us, with the use of practical examples and steps, how to respect and nurture our primary relationship. This little book is not only readable, it is ˜doable." I recommend it not only to my clients who are in relationship, but to my clients who want to be in relationship and wonder why the old ones failed."—"Winter" Robinson, author of Intuitions, Seeing with the Heart, Bar Mills, MN

"This book made me realize I do not have to settle for the type of marriage and stormy relationship my ex-husband and I shared. I can have a relationship that centers on both me and my partner acting as a team and enjoying a ˜best-friends"" relationship." —Gretchen Leigh, Las Vegas, NV

"We have settled for more, and we are adoring it! Twenty-seven years of marriage with all forms of challenges, highs and lows, often feeling like we were anchored in quicksand! One absolute certainty was our shared love for our five beautiful children and another was that we wanted to stay together. Yet for two reasonably intelligent people, we couldn’t figure out how to succeed! And counseling help was often a DISASTER. Tom and Bobbie Merrill’s book has been positively brilliant for us! Merci and Blessings to both authors ~ What a gift you have created between the covers of your book!!!" —Virginia and Charles Beckwith, Attorney and Teacher, Melbourne, Australia

"It's revolutionary!"— Lorna Jeyte, Owner, Kilauea Lodge, Teacher and Community Leader, Mother and Grandmother, Volcano, Hawaii

"I’ve read it twice and think everyone should read this book. It engenders the same higher level feelings in the reader as The Purpose Driven Life"....Puchi Romig, Entrepreneur, Hawaiian Leader, Honolulu and San Francisco

"Settle for More is not just a book. It’s a way of Life"—Maggie Wench, Television Producer, Author, Honolulu, HI

"This book reaches deeper and further than you think it’s going to and has the capacity to be culture-changing."—Kathy MacNaughton, Realtor, Portland, OR

"I gave it to my son and daughter-in-law as a gift, and it has already helped them."—Anonymous, Peoria, AZ

"I’m very positively impressed with the advice, candor, and clarity of Settle for More and give this book my highest recommendation for everyone who is in or is considering being in a committed, romantic relationship." —Cynthia Sue Larsen, MBA, author of Aura Advantage

From Their Classes

"That was the best parenting presentations I’ve heard!"—Mother of Three, Punahou School, Honolulu, HI

"My husband and I thoroughly enjoyed the presentation the two of you gave to our Baby Hui on how to have loving living rooms. We both thank you for sharing so much wonderful information with us that we have already benefited from using!"—Karey Lum., Stay-at-Home Mom – Honolulu, HI

"I was surprised by how well your seemingly simple ideas helped our
relationship. This material really works."—Anne M., Business Owner, Honolulu, HI

From Their Private, Professional, & School Consultations

"I love this book and give it to all my clients. Your sales must have soared since I discovered it."—Christine Robertello, MSW, Co-Director, Stepping Forward Center

"You two are terrific and gave a wonderful presentation to our group. We want to have you back for more training." Dr. Allen Berger, Cumberland Treatment Center, Nashville, TN

"You provided us with a wonderful perspective on how we can be our best even within the context of the legal system. Thanks for your Presentation."—Judge Pollack, Maui, HI